Breakfast Is On Us -Dating is Hard

Breakfast Is On Us -Dating is Hard

Navigating dating after two back to back serious relationships was not easy. For several years, I was either in a relationship, or seriously interested in someone. I had options. But suddenly after my divorce, I had no one. I didn’t maintain many friendships with those I knew my first two years of college. I was starting over.

I thought I could jump back into the dating pool and find someone else to marry before I graduated. I figured I found my ex husband in my first semester of college, so it can’t be that hard to find a new relationship. Boy was I wrong!

The guys I “dated” or hung out with those two years were pretty lame. There was one guy in particular that I had an interest in. He lived in my complex and we had mutual friends that introduced us. The whole thing was very high school in that we were using our friends and roommates to find out if we liked each other. We ended up hanging out a few times and it was fun. But it ended just as quickly as it started. We were talking in his kitchen one night and we brought up the subject of guns. I’m very anti gun and never want them in my home. He was a big hunter and had a lot of guns. After the conversation, he told me a relationship would never work out between us because of this difference.

Like I said before, I didn’t know how to navigate relationships then and I didn’t know what to do with my feelings. While I had been through some pretty rough times, I didn’t have a lot of experience in rejection. I chose to end my relationship with my ex and high school boyfriend. So I chose to deal with my feelings in a more immature way.

I’m a huge Gilmore Girls fan. There was an episode where Rory and Lorelai attend a baby shower and they are given a huge tray of deviled eggs to take home. As they are driving home, Rory see’s Jess’s car and because she’s mad at him for whatever reason at that time, she convinces her mom to “devil egg” his car with her.

This episode popped into my head as I was trying to figure out what to do about my feelings about being rejected. I told my roommates about the episode and they were more than happy to be involved in my prank. I made deviled eggs and a few of my roommates and I found the guys truck and smashed the deviled eggs on it. It was an invigorating experience.

The next day we realized the semester was coming to an end quickly and we had a lot of leftover food in our pantry. We decided to put it to good use on this guy. In high school, I had a friend who “floured” a car and it became a huge mess when it was mixed with water. So we grabbed our bags of flour and went to cover his car. We also brought spray bottles to create the paste.

By night three, we became addicted to this prank. I searched my pantry again and realized I had a large amount of pancake mix and syrup. I was dedicated to this prank, so I spent a good amount of time making pancakes. My accomplishes and I went and found his truck again and carefully put syrup on each pancake and stuck it to the truck. And on the back window of his truck we wrote “breakfast is on us.”

Night four came with a twist. His truck was not parked at our apartment complex and was nowhere to be found. We drove around town for a while to see if we could locate it, but that proved impossible. The last few nights of the semester, his truck never returned to our complex.

Finding ways to cope with feelings about relationships isn’t always easy. Sometimes we take the immature route and sometimes we are more mature about it. Obviously, I would never suggest to anyone use pranks as a coping mechanism, but hey, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do!

Nowadays I try to work out my feelings in a healthier way. I spend a lot of time on my computer and phone writing and finding as much humor as possible on social media. And now I have matching cases thanks to Case App. You can choose to create your own design, or select from the designs they already have. I never realized how much I wanted a laptop skin until I put one on!!!

 


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